Is a Bailing Bridesmaid the Worst Friend Ever?
Can a friendship survive bailing on being in the wedding party?A wedding is a big deal. We all know that. It's one of the biggest days in someone's life. I've had the privilege of being asked to be in a number of weddings and without hesitation, I always jumped at the chance. I believe it to be an honor to have someone ask you to stand by them on of the most important days of their lives.
My fiancée and I, like most engaged couples, picked our wedding parties and have been looking forward to going through this whole process with them. Just recently, one of the bridesmaids bailed. The reasoning is complicated, but ridiculous nonetheless. She made a decision to not stand by one of her best friends on one of the biggest days of her life. Needless to say, that friendship is never going to be the same.
Now, despite the fact that her reasoning was fairly ridiculous (I won't share that here), I do understand that being in a wedding is oftentimes expensive and isn't easy. I was in three weddings within a 10-month period. That took a real toll on my wallet, but I managed. I know not everyone can manage it so, in that case, I can understand someone needing to bail.
Typically you know it will be a lot when you agree to be in someone's wedding, but sometimes things come up and it can be too much, but is just straight up bailing something a friendship can survive? If it's money or time, maybe talk it out with the bride and groom. Maybe all parties can make a plan to make things easier. I mean you all ARE friends after all.
I just find it an interesting and very delicate situation to deal with. I don't think I would ever bail on being in someone's wedding, but not everyone feels that way. I also don't know if I could forgive someone for bailing on me on that day.
Would you bail? Could you forgive?