Can You Cancel A Surrogacy?
Court documents from the Sherri Shepherd – Lamar Sally divorce keep finding their way to the media and the latest news was perhaps the lowest thing I’ve ever heard from a clashing former couple.
Shepherd is apparently asking the judge to rule that she has no parental rights over the impending arrival she and Lamar are expecting via surrogate. She says that the baby,
which is due this month by the way, was conceived using Lamar’s sperm, but not her egg so she therefore shouldn’t be considered a parent or have to pay child support.
Sherri is dead set against having any responsibility for this child, claiming that Lamar defrauded her by getting her to sign on for a surrogate birth knowing that he would divorce her and then go after her for child support money. She thinks it’s all a plot to get more money out of her and she is refusing to pay.
Lamar on the other hand is saying Sherri tried in vitro several times before going the surrogacy route for this baby and claims she was very involved in the entire process.
And to make things even more complicated, Lamar has filed for divorce in California and Sherri has filed in New Jersey. New Jersey courts apparently quite often do not recognize surrogate agreements, so I think we know why Sherri filed where she did.
I just can’t wrap my mind around ignoring this helpless unborn baby just because you’re bitter with your soon-to-be ex-husband.
Of course I don’t know the particulars of their relationship at all. Maybe she is right and Lamar was just in it for the money. But bringing a baby who hasn’t even breathed it’s first breath yet is unthinkable to me.
There are plenty of people in this world who would love to have a newborn in their lives. Who don’t have the means to go through the surrogacy process to have a baby of their own. And this baby didn’t do anything wrong. It didn’t ask to be born. Shouldn’t it get some support and love?
Maybe it’s just me, but does this story bother you too? Do you think Sherri has a point or do you think terminating rights before you even meet the baby is a littler rash?