Weddings are anything but cheap, so is it okay to request money in lieu of wedding gifts?

I'm learning the hard way that trying to pay for a wedding is a herculean task. There are way more costs than you could ever realize. I've been to over 15 weddings in the last 2-3 years, and I've actually been in most of them. Now, planning mine, I'm learning a lot about what you can and can not do.

I still can't get a clear answer to one thing, though: is asking for money in lieu of gifts, or as a gift okay?

My instincts would tell me 100 percent yes it's fine. Couples put together a registry for what they need. If what they need is money, why the hell not? Wedding fund registries are a thing. As a matter of fact, my fiancée and I are planning to set that up. A friend of mine asked for money for a house fund for his wedding. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

Typically, the rule is that you're supposed to gift a gift that is worth your plate at the wedding. Trust me when I tell you, not everyone is going to give you a gift worth that much. Plus what if you don't need another toaster or vacuum? What if you already have everything you need? Money is the next best thing. Maybe you can put that down on a house or tuck it away for the potential kids that might soon be on the way. I see nothing wrong with it AT ALL. I think in this day and age, it's perfectly fine and not rude at all.

Not all of you agree.

We asked you all on our Instagram story if it was rude or not. The results were surprisingly split right down the middle.

So what do you think? Yay or nay? Is it rude or nah?